Trying to set up child custody during your separation and following your divorce can be tough. Child custody is a difficult topic to discuss, especially when emotions are running high.
There are some steps you can take to make custody planning easier, though. Some possible options include:
- Clarifying concerns early in the conversation
- Knowing your schedule ahead of any meetings or discussions
- Being reasonable with your expectations
By planning ahead, knowing what worries you and being aware of what kinds of expectations you should have, you’ll be in a better position as you work on a custody schedule.
Clarify your concerns
To start with, you should be clear with the other parent if you have any concerns about custody. For example, you may express that you’re worried that they will take on more time than they can handle or that your children won’t do well with long breaks between seeing each parent. Putting your concerns out in the open can help open up the conversation while also addressing your personal worries.
Know your schedule
The next thing to do is to know your schedule. When you talk to the other parent about putting together a custody schedule, knowing your work hours and which days you’re available is key. That way, you can build a schedule that fits both of your schedules and work through dates that may cause conflicts.
Finally, be reasonable. Your children are your spouse’s children as well, so it is reasonable that they may have their own concerns or wishes. You may not agree with everything they say or want, but you should be reasonable about their requests. Listen to what they have to say before you reject new ideas or scheduling options.
Child custody planning can be made easier if you and your ex-spouse are willing to work together and come up with solutions that work not only for both of you but also for your children. Your attorney can help you draw up the custody plan once you and your ex are able to settle on one. If you can’t, then your attorney may be able to assist you in taking the case to court.